Friday, 8 September 2017

BULLYING

BULLYING (Ragging)
effect of bullying
“17 out of 20 bully victims are left trumatised”
BULLYING

    “The word is not new to us neither is it news to us, we know it, seen it and even experience it, but what have we done about it? Do we actually plan on doing anything, or are we just going to sit back and watch innocent kids pushed to the point of death? {#suicideawareness}, are we gonna do something until our kids fall victim? Why wait till the damage is done before acting, before speaking out {#standagainstbullying}”


       RAGGING
This basically involves tormenting freshmen at school, an initiation process involving harassment. This word is mainly word is mainly used in India, Pakistan, Bangladesh, Sri, Lanka and Malaysia. It involves existing students baiting or bullying new students. It often takes a malignant form wherein the newcomers may be subjected to psychological or physical torture. {Source: Wikipedia}.

      Now on to BULLYING. Bullying is the repeated, verbal, physical, social or psychological aggressive behavior by a person or group directed towards a less powerful person or group that is intended to cause harm, distress or fear. Bullying can happen in diverse ways, verbal or written, sexual harassment, discrimination, cyberbullying e.t.c. Bullying has a negative impact on everyone involved. Below is a story {copied} that tells the impact of bullying on its victims.

“His Name Was Steven: A 13-Year-Old Victim of Bullycide


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His name was Steven. He was 13 years old and six years ago, he hung himself in his bedroom closet after being tormented by bullies. Last week, his father reached out to me after reading my HuffPost article, “Bullying: The Really Big Problem Behind the Really Big Problem” about National Bullying Prevention Month and self-bullying. In a horrible twist of irony, last week also marked the loss of another teen. 15-year-old Amanda Todd took her life after years of relentless bullying. Just last month, she had uploaded a nine-minute video to YouTube entitled Amanda Todd’s Story: Struggling, Bullying, Suicide, Self-Harm. It’s a tragic reality that there have been so many suicides attributed to bullying that we now have a word to describe it: bullycide.
This is Steven’s story. The story of a life that ended way too soon. It’s the story of Steven’s parents and the unfathomable pain they have had to endure. It’s a story that hopes to honor Steven, Amanda and all the other victims of senseless bullying while trying to bring awareness and change to the greatest youth epidemic of our time.
Steven was a sweet, sensitive and artistic kid. He adored his older sister and he loved skateboarding, baseball, music and his dog, Finster. He also happened to be a little awkward. He was a smallish kid who was different and just didn’t quite fit in. To some extent he had always been the target of teasing, but it was in middle school at the beginning of 7th grade when the bullying escalated to a level Steven could no longer face. That day, his tormentors set him on fire with a lighter and an aerosol can of body spray. They recorded their attack on a cell phone and posted it on the Internet. Later that evening while his mom was getting dinner ready, Steven took his own life.
It had been about a month since Mike and Pam Urry, Steven’s parents, had become aware of the severity of the bullying. They had met with school officials, filed police reports and had made plans to remove Steven from his school. Mike says, “We just found out too late, or maybe we didn’t act fast enough, I don’t know. The teachers and staff had no plan, no procedure in place to identify and stop the abuse.”
It’s a story we hear all too often. Tragically, many people knew what was going on, including many of Steven’s fellow students. One of the bystanders wrote about her guilt and shame on her blog:
We all knew what he went through. We knew who beat him up. We knew who locked him in a cupboard. We knew who had held his head under water in a sink. So why hadn’t we told anyone? We were stupid. And we expected somebody else to do something about it. I wish I could apologize to Steven. No, I never bullied him up front, but if you’re not part of the solution, you’re part of the problem.
It was Steven’s mom who found him after he had hung himself when she went to tell him to wash up for dinner. Mike was at work and a police officer was sent to pick him up and take him to the hospital. Not knowing what had happened, he was escorted to a private room and “I instantly felt my blood run cold,” he said. Pam was hysterical, crying convulsively and shaking her head violently as if to refuse what she was hearing. Mike says, “It was a tidal wave of pain and panic. Our boy had taken his own life. My son was gone. Our beautiful boy was just... gone.”
Mike says he spent that day in a state of “massive emotional trauma.” He doesn’t remember very much of those first few days, but what he does remember haunts him to this day. “It’s just one long nightmare I keep having. Seeing my son in the morgue, on a slab,” he says. “I can still see the ligature marks around his neck.” He can also still recall with crystal clarity the scream Pam let out as she awoke the day after Steven’s death and remembered what happened. It’s a horror no parent should ever have to endure.
“Preparing our son’s funeral was beyond surreal,” says Mike. Pam read her letter to Steven to the packed chapel. “It was the most profoundly perfect and beautiful message from a mother to her child we had ever heard.” Pam’s father had dug and prepared Steven’s grave and Mike lowered the urn into the ground with his own hands. “My last act as Steven’s father.”
It has been almost six years now since they experienced the unthinkable act of burying their child, but tragically, it’s stories like Amanda Todd’s from just last week that can trigger an avalanche of emotion. “The power of these triggers to propel me right back to the emotional moment of Steven’s death is overwhelming, like nothing I’ve ever experienced,” says Mike. “It’s like the six years since never happened, like it’s December 2006 all over again.”
In Part 2 of this story we’ll hear how Steven’s parents endured the pain and grief after Steven’s death and how the cruel act of their son’s bully has become their own personal trauma. We’ll also hear how Mike has channeled his pain into an organization called His Name Was Steven to help prevent other children and teens from suffering at the hands of bullies as his son did and prevent other parents from experiencing the horror they have.
This is Steven’s story. But for Steven, Amanda and all the other children and teens who have suffered, let’s make it OUR story. Let’s make this a story to awaken us to the reality of this great epidemic. Let’s make it a call and an outcry for change.”
Need help? In the U.S., call 1-800-273-8255 for the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline.
Follow Jonathan Hewitt on Twitter: www.twitter.com/LifeKidoWay

Jonathan Hewitt Author, ‘Life Ki-do Parenting: Tools to Raise Happy, Confident Kids from the Inside Out’.


     EFFECTS
Bullying effects can’t be hidden, we just need to look deep and it’s there to see in the victim….

Somehow, people think bullying is a part of life, a part of growing up and an opportunity to stand up for yourself. Some kids naturally will not accept being bullied, and will stand against it. Others are not that brave and will crumble at it. They end up feeling lonely, unhappy and frightened. It can make them lose confidence and interest in school. These effects are also signs that kids may exhibit when being abused by bullies.

Wednesday, 26 July 2017

OUR WORLD AND DRUGS


OUR WORLD AND DRUGS

07-Jul-17
OUR WORLD AND DRUGS

We live in a world where everything comes and go, a place we can call HOME, our SANCTUARY……
We are governed, ruled by ones we choose to lead us…… Trusting them to make that long awaited change we all so much taste for.. A better society, a better home for our kids, a better and promising future… EARTH, the Mother that holds us all in one big embrace, bringing us together to interact, work, trust, and love… but with it all comes it’s bitter truth that lurks beneath.
 There is a lot of talk about drugs in the world-on the streets, at school, on the internet. Some of it true, some not…. We get most of our view on drugs from those selling the… What we need to know is that, most sellers would say anything to get us to buy from ‘em…
     We need facts, lectures to avoid becoming hooked on drugs and to help others around us prevent or stop addiction on drugs….
We at WTGH(#wewritetogivehope) hope this article on drugs will help us in understanding drugs and its effects…………………………………………………………………………………………………….
 



OUR WORLD AND DRUGS
          PRESCRIPTION DRUGS
One of the most commonly abused drugs are the prescription drugs. Most teens and young adults are found to be more involved in the abuse of prescription drugs, with National Studies showing that a teen is more likely to abuse prescription drugs than an illegal drug dealer… We all think prescription drugs are safe because they were prescribed by a doctor, which is true, but taking them for non-medical reasons in other to get high can just be as dangerous and addictive as taking illegal streets drugs, with various risk involved. These drugs are only safe when taken for the right reasons alone…. Some of this abused prescription drugs include OXYCONTIN, DEMEROL, DEXEDRINE(stimulants),and ROXANOL….. Going to your friend who has no medical knowledge for opinions on drugs to use just plain dangerous, involving deaths….
             STIMULANTS
Stimulants basically increases our ALERTNESS and ENERGY….. The most commonly used streets drugs in this category include COCAINE and AMPHETAMINES as they mostly increase the strength and agility of it’s taker, mostly crushed and snorted… Here are some of its SHORT-TERM EFFECTS
Ø  Exhaustion
Ø  Depression
Here are some of its LONG-TERM EFFECTS
Ø  Irregular Heartbeat
Ø  Dangerously High Body Temperature

ANTIDEPRESSANTS

These drugs include PROZAC, PAXIL, CELEXA,, and ZOLOFT… They come in multi coloured  capsules and tablets…. Study shows that 14% of teens who take antidepressants become aggressive and violent. It also gave various examples of extreme and irrational behavior from individuals on these drugs… Example of a Man who drowned himself and his two kids in a bathtub. Effects include

Ø  Insomnia
Ø  Violent thoughts and actions
Ø  Sweating
Ø  Irregular heartbeat
Ø  Confusion
Ø  Hallucinations
Ø  Nervousness and anxiety
Ø  Suicidal thoughts
Ø  Hostility
Ø  Tremors
Ø  Paranoia
Ø  Akathisia(a painful inner agitation; inability to sit still)
STATISTICS
·         In 2006 in the US, 2.6 million people abused prescription drugs for the first time
·         A 2007 survey in the US found out that 3.3% of 12-17 year olds and 6% of 17-25 year olds had abused prescription drugs in the past months
·         In 2005, 4.4. million teenagers in the US admitted taking prescription painkillers, and 2.3 million took prescription stimulants…

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Drugs can be really deadly if taken just to get high. Fine it makes you feel good, but it all a slow death gradually working its way up… Medicines are drugs intended to correct what doesn’t feel right in our body, trying to make it better, BUT, too much can or will kill you… Live a drug free life and try to help others involved in it before it gets too late to help… Get facts about drugs before taking them…. Stay Safe, Be Vigilant and Remain Smart…………………….


AUTHOR-AJIBADE PELUMI RAYMOND(JOEY)
CO AUTHOR-GINIKA IHEJIWURU(NIQI)
©NIQI-JOEY2017

                        #wewritetogivehope…..

FRIENDSHIP

FRIENDSHIP
The Goal Of Friendship
‘He is my friend’….. ‘
          She is nice and so, perfect that’s why we are friends’

     Having a friend is one of the best feeling in the world, knowing u’ve got someone out there who is ready to listen to you, challenge you, motivate you to do things you scared of doing….. Someone, someone you can feel safe with always….. All this feels right doesn’t it? But what happens when this FRIENDSHIP a thing happens for the worst of reasons?????????????       
             Hi am Ajibade Pelumi Raymond (Joe Raymond) and today I’ll will be speaking on an article with the above tittle… ENJOY

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ü  WHAT OR WHO IS A FRIEND?

  Anyone can be a friend, can be a partner, but I will define a friend as “Someone Who Is Willing To Defend You, Inspire You, Criticize You, Not Only Criticize You But Always Ready To Tell You The Truth When Needed, And Also Someone Who Won’t Leave You When It All Comes Crashing Down”..
   Being in an intimate conversation with anther individual does not mean you have found a friend, all because He/She listens to you. People listen for different reasons, some for fun, some for deceit, some  just listen because they’ve got nothing else to do, not because they want to or are interested in whatever you’ve got to say to them…. So you might want to re-think your view whenever someone SEEMS to be listening to you.

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ü  DO I NEED A FRIEND?

    Why do I need to befriend someone, am perfectly okay by myself, I can survive….
Everyone need someone in their life at some point in time.. So wondering if you need a friend is okay, there is no harm in that.. But your fear shouldn’t hold you back from going out to socialize.. You are right to ask yourself if you need or will ever need a friend… FRIENSHIP is fun, so yes you do need a friend, a companion, but never let your friendship blind you to the truth of it all, you should still remain vigilant to all happening around you… If making friends contradicts your personal goal of friendship, BACK-OUT…
The Goal of friendship should be plain, simple, smooth, productive, not selfish or for companionship only and also not for sexual feelings…
        And yes you do need a FRIEND, A TRUE FRIEND…

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ü  THE GOAL OF FRIENDSHIP

     Friends looks out for each other, with no interior motives in friendship there must be natural likeness, even if the feelings come avoid it. In friendship there must be love ,respect, trust , prayer, you share ideas ,help each others to grow...good friendship don't support evil, backbiting, they don't hide secret, they don't envy, they catch fun, they play together, they make jokes, they argue, insult and settle
Not being lost, share ideas, help each other in lifting one up…….
 If friendship contradicts your goal of friendship from the start, LET SUCH FRIENDSHIP GO………………………………………………………………………………………..
                                                                                                                          
AURTHOR- AJIBADE PELUMI RAYMOND(JOEY)
CO.AUTHOR- GINIKA IHEJIWURU(NIQI)

©NIQI-JOEY

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